Ephesians 4:29 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.
Oh this verse is so important to our quality of life, and the quality of life of the people around us!! Can we be frustrated, angry and upset? Yes! But we need to take those things to God. When we do God sorts them our in our hearts in the right way. People tend to tell us what they think we want to hear, making us more frustrated, angry or upset. God sets us straight... God gives us the best way to think through something. Then our words don't make the situation worse for us or for others.
We need too, to be careful of the words we say to ourselves about ourselves. We need to but us up, as well as others... we need to have helpful dialog in our head about ourselves and our lives... we need our words spoken about ourselves to be words of encouragement! We need to remember what God says about us!!
God tells us He loves us so much that He let His only son die for our sins (John 3:16). God tells us that we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139:14). God tells us that we matter so much to Him that even the hairs on our heads are numbered (Luke 12:7). I don't know about you, but with me that changes ever few minutes...and God knows when it does!! God tells us that He cares about the desires of our hearts (Psalm 37:4). God cares about what we want!!... the list goes on and on. If we matter that much to God we should be kind to ourselves!!
We need to remember that we are all God's children!! If we matter that much to God, the person next to us at any given time at any part of our day, matters that much to God to!! Have you ever known a mother that didn't just love somebody to death that loved and encouraged her child. God feels the same way!! When we love and encourage others we are loving one of God's children. That matters to God even more!!
We need to remember the words of Thumper's that his mother taught him (from Bambi), "If you can't say something nice, don't say nothin at all." Proverbs 18:21 tells us that our words have the power of life and death and that we eat the fruit of our words. We need to be mindful of our words, not just letting anything flow from our mouths... the words we choose should be loving and encouraging, good words, helpful words. We need to remember if we hear ourselves saying something we shouldn't that it is never too late to shut our mouths!!
If we start out watching our thoughts, and think on things that are good and noble and kind, honorable and pure and lovely (Philippians 4:8). Then good and noble, kind, honorable, pure and lovely words will follow. By taking our thoughts captive, we take our words captive!