I think grace happens easiest when we put ourselves completely in somebody else's shoes. Not looking at their situation from our own shoes. The Father, Son and Holy Spirit are one...so when God sent Jesus down to live on this earth as a man that is just what he did , put himself in our shoes. God's grace is all encompassing, it abounds! When we have trouble passing out grace to someone we need to say..what would I do if I were them? If I were born in their situation, if I worked their job, if I lived with their family, if I had their personality. I think so often we might find that we would not handle their situation as well as they are handling it if we put ourselves completely in their shoes. We need to leave nothing out then grace will abound from us too.