James 3:17 But the wisdom for above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.
This is one of those verses that we need to put into our memory...thinking of it every day as a way to measure our words and our actions against what is good and noble. It is a good checklist to discern if it is the Holy Spirit speaking to us or if it is Satan trying to disguise himself in something that looks like wisdom.
We couls ask ourselves, "Am I choosing peace?" "Are my thoughts/actions gentle?" "Am I demanding my own way or am I yielding?" "Is this decision merciful?" "Am I choosing to do good?" "Am I being sincere?"